Teenagers and Pornography - An Evaluation of How to Keep God in and Satan Out!

Raising children is a wonderful experience, but when they start getting older and more independent you still have to work hard to protect their innocence at all costs. God gave you these children and while they are under your roof, you must take the time to recognize the "who, what, where, when, and why" for situations that start early in the beginnings of their teen years, so that our obstacles of confusion can become their overcoming experiences.

WHO ARE THEIR FRIENDS? How old are they? Age means so much because the influence of older children can certainly throw your child into unhealthy sex talks, or opinions by other kid's that especially can affect their mental growth with God and can certainly undermine the truth of what you are trying to teach them.

WHAT ENVIRONMENT ARE THEIR FRIENDS COMING FROM? I've noticed that young teenagers act directly from the environment that they are mostly in and around.
It is easier to see their insecurities and their bad habits. I'm not saying that being raised by "Grandma" or a single parent is bad.
Unfortunately some of the kids I've met have been let loose to do anything they desire and exhaust a single parent or grandparent. These kids' learned behaviors can rub off on your child quickly if you avoid correction measures.

The best thing that you can do is to have these kids at your house. It is less likely for bad behaviors to come out when it's on your turf.
It is always good to make a list of dos and don'ts for a corkboard close by your teenager's room.

It will work well for your kids as well.
WHERE ARE THEIR "HANGOUT" SPOTS. Never allow a computer center to be out of range of your vision. If you have a two story house, put the computer system in the family area, close by where everyone frequents. If the teenagers room is down stairs be sure and watch for friends that come over, especially the older teens who's friends can bring their own computers.

Confiscate any outside laptop that comes in. If not you could find that your teen has been looking at pornography from someone else's computer.

Next, buy a yearly computer filter.

This filter company will give you ample warning when the subscription is running out. WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT "BAD SIGNS?" These bad signs are the way they talk to you and the attitudes that they present. The computer history tells a lot about their thinking, and can contribute to their attitudes, so always check it please.

The best time is to talk to your teenager is all the time.
When a situation occurs, take care of it then. This will prevent a later build-up of confusion and anger that can be projected from previous situations.
WHY ARE MY OLDER TEENAGERS BECOMING SO DISTANT? Never let your guard down. What I mean by this is that your constant evaluation of their friends, girlfriends, and their family time will play a huge part in their being close or distant to you.

Are they spending too much time in their rooms, on the phone, or on the computer? Yes, they will tell you that they are growing up but too much growing up and independence can be a red flag.

They begin to think that they know more than you and that outside influences mean more to them that yours does. Tell them how you feel and have lots of conversations to eradicate this.
LAST BUT NEVER LEAST If what you are doing is still coming to resistance from your teenager, then and this is done in my home firstly, start a family Bible reading or study where your teen is hearing the word of God. We keep a CD player loaded with books of the Bible that we play always and especially while the teens are in the room.
His word can creep into their inner being when they aren't even aware of it.